Mentoring – building the super mentor

A quick glance through the internet and you’ll see countless programs focused on youth mentoring programs.   Inc. magazine regularly covers stories on mentoring in the workplace and why it’s important to their overall culture.

So much demand for mentoring, yet very little in reference to “building mentors”.   Why it this?

Being a mentor is a serious, well-being experience. But, mentors are not built over night. Nor do they grow on trees. Mentors are built and honed with years of hard work, personal experience and the slow cooking of time. World-class mentors understand the totality of their gift and the long road they traveled to get there.

Here are a few traits to consider when thinking of a mentor:

1. The are generous – will to offer their experience and knowledge in support of “others” growth.

2. They are approachable.

3. They are curious and have excellent listening skills.

4. They are honest.

5. They are objective and fair.

6. They are direct.

7. They are genuine and compassionate.

8. They are good communicators.

So the question I seek to answer is how do we find mentors whom represent these traits in all that they do in their lives.

If you think you these traits resonate with you or someone you know, I’d like to talk with them as part of my research on how to build great mentors.

Simply reply to this post or visit my contact page at www.tengraces.com

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How does your father see you?

My father still calls me Will or Billy, names I stopped being years ago. Our conversations always drift back to a time when I was still a boy, a child; his son.

You see, it is as if my father took a mental picture – a snapshot if you will – of me as a children.  I was probably 4-6 years of age.  My father was most comfortable relating with me from this space (he the adult, I the child).  He still relates this way some 44 years later.  It is impossible for him to see me for who I am today.

This is my biggest charge in relating with both my parents – They never saw me as a child.  They cannot relate with me as an adult today.

How do you relate with your parent(s)?  How does your father see you?  Your mother?  Can you be complete and uncompromising in their presence?

This is my work.

 

 

 

 

The importance of structure

Structure is what you build when you engage yourself; in meditation, in your will and in your life. It is a process, much like bodybuilding; the more you work or engage, the stronger you become.

Without structure, we succumb to many of the maladies of our contemporary world – stress, depression, fatigue – so we feel lost or helpless.