They say “there is always someone better than you at a given task or skill”. I like to counter it with a different viewpoint – that we all have a radio frequency that is unique to you and me and no one else.
Like a radio dial, each of us can tune into a station that we vibrate with. We pick up that frequency better than anyone else and vice versa. We all have this unique channel.
An example of one of my frequencies is my intuition; my keen and quick insight. Because of this, I’m a great problem solver.
So what’s your frequency? Take some time to explore your process. Think about what you feel is your gift or strength. Then lock that dial down and tune into what’s there for you. Become the master of your radio frequency.
The world is waiting for you.
Other refers to everyone else. This includes – family, friends, neighbors, business colleagues and clients – anyone outside of you and your
Connecting with other takes work, will and intention. In business, its paramount for sustainability. In life, critical to our base need for interaction and connection.
When we think of other we open. We approach other with curiosity and wonder. We wish to stay mutually engaged and interested in other. We see our relationship grow and change as we grow and change. Nothing is forced.
Here are some tips when relating with other:
- Be yourself – no hiding, just be your authentic self.
- Listen – really listen to what other has to say.
- Be present for other – put your device and any other distractions away.
- Inquire – ask questions and then listen.
- Reflect back to other when seeking clarity.
Don’t back away from other. We soon realize how other really is a reflection of who we are in the world. So be gentle, both with yourself and other.
You’ll be the richer for this.
When we feel like something is out of our control we experiences fear and anxiety. Often this perception leads us to action. We immediately shut down – our feelings, our ability to communicate, our connection to another – all diminished as we seal ourselves behind a wall. For many, this seems like a good strategy.
The problem is that walls are just that, a barrier . If we want to have – healthy relationships, mature exchanges of ideas or deeper understandings – walls are not the way to go.
Walls isolate. Walls shut things down. Walls keep ignorance alive. Walls cut us off from ourselves.
Building walls has a negative long-term affect on our ability to function in community (and like it or not, we all live on this planet, communally). Our social fabric becomes torn.
So if you build walls between yourself and another, or between countries, you better understand there is a price. That price is isolation; from you, me and everyone else.
Say “NO” to walls. Say “NO” to isolation.
Life is like a big picnic. We are all invited. You can show up with something or nothing at all.
What makes the picnic enjoyable and connective is when we show up with something…anything that brings value to the gathering. We can bring something tangible – like a skill, an offering or a place. Or we can bring our ideas, our dreams, or simply our presence. The important part is that we show up.
When we don’t show up or show up with nothing, we place the burden on the shoulders of others. Eventually this causes difficulty. The gathering fractures. We disconnect, we disassociate, and in extremes, we even go to war. Everyone loses.
Think about what you can share with others; how you can contribute. Remember we are all in this together.
Then go do it.
“The ignorant work for their own profit, Arjuna; the wise work for the welfare of the world, without thought for themselves. ” Bhagavad Gita
Why demonstrate truth, when the tactic of bullying is so much more effective. Why acknowledge the reality in front of us, when the ego’s need to be “right” is the driver.
How much are we willing to put up with?
We (all) have a great deal to think about in the days and months to come. Ultimately, the failures of our leadership is our albatross to wear.
We let our guard down. We fell asleep at the wheel.
Time to dig deep inside to find our collective truth.
Time to check our moral character.
Time to check our ego’s at the door.
“Keep it local”
This may seem like an overused word these days. It’s on bumper stickers, t-shirts, websites, you name it. People give it a great deal of lip service, but from my experience, we often fall far short on our intentions We still spend a majority of our money outside our community.
Local economies are only as effective as the desires of the very population that makes up that economy. When our needs out strip our communities ability to satisfy that need, we loose our community binding. We start to wander (economically) away from our place of roots. The effect is that businesses within the community begin to fail. Our support network withers and we all feel the impact.
An example of this is shipping our support services (like printing and design work) to other markets we believe to be more competitive. Small projects, large projects, they leave our communities because of price. Businesses leave or shutter. All of this adds up to a resource drain on our local economy and community. When a local print shop or graphic design firm goes out of business, we all lose.
So what’s my point? When we realize that, you and I, the people we sit next to at work or at our favorite coffee shop, are all an important parts of this intricate economic web. We now put a face to what has traditionally been an intellectual exercise. We now see flesh and blood people who need local economies and what they provide: products, services, employment, and income. We start to shift our perspective.
Given our options today, we do have a choice in where and how we spend our money. I am not suggesting that we close our doors; stopping our demands for services from abroad. However, when we see the communal benefit from “keeping it local”, we can start to prioritize differently. We look first to our local resources, before spending elsewhere. This keeps our local economic engine running. This keeps you and me working and stable.
I’m slowing down the tune
I never liked it fast
You want to get there soon
I want to get there last
The creation of anything worthwhile takes time, a concept many of us in business (and life) seem to forget. If we want to have long-term success, then we need to learn to slow down. Taking the time to slowly build a project or a relationship that will last the test of time.
As I begin my process of building another business, I am reminded of how difficult slowing down can be. We want to keep things moving – momentum happening – so not too fall behind or loose out. We often run before we walk. Ultimately, this leads to breakdowns and confusion. We loose our way and our business and/or life opportunity suffers.
Here are a few suggestions to consider to help slow things down:
- Take the time to plan your short and long term strategies. Do not make things up as you go. Really think through what you’re doing and how you wish to go about the process.
- Create a document that sets the path forward for your opportunity. Something about slowing down to write up your ideas help them stick.
- Take your plan and share it. Then, distill it down to sets of actionable items that you (and your team) can follow.
- Communicate, communicate, communicate. Take the time.
- Check in frequently with yourself and others. Assign tasks based on your plan and ask that you get feedback in return.
- Set milestones to check your progress. You’ll need to have some way to make sure your on track and in the positive.
- Lastly – breath – take the time to take in a deep breath or two. Encourage your team to do the same.
Slowing down in life will actually bring about greater clarity for those willing to take the plunge. In business, it could mean having a sustainable practice or making better decisions that benefit the many. In life, well, so many great things happen when we slow down. Just ask the one’s you love what it’s like for them when you slow down.
It makes a difference.