The New Year

We can’t necessarily undo what’s been done (in our lives and in 2016), but I do believe we can start anew each day of our life.  I  send my best wishes to everyone and all as we slide into 2017.

May the new year find you looking to renew and redo yourself.

May you find the love you seek from a place within.

May you embrace the diversity of mankind, while recognizing that same potential in you.




The Night Winds: A love poem

To my love Marilyn…


The night winds calls

to me rooted by your side
as stars glance down
upon our tender breaths.

The blue moon calls

for truths we already know
as I listen to your palm
holding our love for all ages

The end of times calls

from a space inky and vast
as we  grow together
rooted in love’s sweet toil.

Then there is only silence



The night winds

50 years

This morning, my 18,250 morning in this lifetime, I can feel a sense of ease and gratitude for what I have experienced.  Not to overthink being 50 or say too much, but rather a sense of who I am and the road that I’ve traveled to be here today.  My love for my son, Nate and my partner of 8 years, Marilyn – you both are my foundation and my greatest gifts.

I am a blessed man today.



Taking Action – action from a place of authenticity

Try this sentence on for yourself  –

“Authenticity is not just how to get through your life, but the way we live our lives.”

Does this stir anything in you upon reading it?  This is a comment from Bryan Laursen, a men’s group leader from Boulder, CO, during a recent conversation about taking action.  Bryan facilitates discussions among men about bring authenticity and integrity into their lives.  Through his facilitation and leadership, men begin their life’s work at a deeper, more integral level.

We discussed the importance of accountability and integrity and the difficult nature they bring to the group dynamic.  Bryan shared this about accountability:

“Accountability – it is the toughest part.  A great deal of resistance is present for many in the group.  Some stopped by fear, many by shame.  Where do you go from there?  How do you proceed forward, especially in a group environment.”

We talked about setting the context for group work up front, getting buying in from the group prior to starting the process.  Having guidelines and agreements to help keep the direction and structure, clear and cohesive.  Finally, we mused over the relevance of integrity within the participants.   Keeping everyone clear and committed to their respective agreement.

“Are you going to do what you say you’ll do?”

We talked about the importance of men’s work in the world.  How by participating in a men’s group, a man can begin the process of taking action.

Taking action doesn’t have to be a solo process.  Having a group that supports your intentions and dreams can be very powerful.  The openness and accountability of a group creates an intangible bond between members, but one must be prepared to be committed and authentic in such an endeavor.

We all have our part in the world.

Bryan Laursen is an IT and business advisor by day and in his spare time, you’ll find him leading and advocating for men’s groups, practicing and teaching authentic relating techniques (circling) and geeking out on anything consciousness related.

Thoughts on the holidays

As the clock ticks closer to the hour of old Saint Nick, I send these wishes to the world:

That we may all find a peace that is unusual and surprising.  Something that vibrates deep inside.

May we see money for what it is – paper – not for what it makes us.

May we understand that acts of violence – against anyone or thing – will only settle in our collective psyche for life times to come.

May we give our children what they really need; a world of patience, love and understanding.

Lastly, may you see the higher part of all humans, regardless of your beliefs, political affiliations or fears.  Leave the judgements to judges and let your heart open to the truth in all.


An Article on Authoritarianism

I have four questions listed below.  Take this very brief quiz.

  1. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: independence or respect for elders?
  2. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: obedience or self-reliance?
  3. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: to be considerate or to be well-behaved?
  4. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: curiosity or good manners?

Now go to this link to for an explanation of this quiz and it’s significance in the broader context of our world today:

I share this article in an attempt to better understand the complexity of the world I live in.   I believe knowledge is power.


Taking Action – planning and coaching

What stop’s you from moving forward? This was the question posed to me by life coach Angela Watson Robertson recently in a phone call. A great question for me to ponder as I ponder my directions for the new year. Getting stuck or experiencing inertia, happens to all of us from time to time.

Here is what Angela shared with me regarding the importance of planning and the benefits of receiving coaching:

In our modern world where our lives are so full and busy, it can be difficult to stay on top of our goals and keep moving forward. Yet, if we want to continue to evolve, grow and fulfill our mission and vision for our life, planning is important. Coaching can help. A coach will serve as your accountability partner, mentor and project manager for your dreams to keep you on track.

In my coaching practice, I help clients get clear about what they really want to experience in their life, then create specific detailed goals to get them there. In each session together we identify action items to be completed in order to take small, consistent steps toward a more meaningful, productive and fulfilling life.

Often we back away from taking action in our lives because of old belief systems and fear.   We tell ourselves stories:

  • I don’t have the time
  • I don’t have the money
  • I don’t have a way or a plan to begin to make serious change.

This is where a mentor or coach can come in and provide a different reflection to us.  They help us map out the who, what, when and how.  Their guidance providing us an opportunity to break the old code of beliefs  so that we can move on in a powerful new way.

I have personally relied on coaches and mentors to help me through my life’s directional changes.  They were powerful change agents who reminded me of my journey and the value I bring to the world.  I wouldn’t be the person I am today without them.

You can learn more about Angela and her coaching services at: